Wonke umntwana uya kujongana nengxaki yokuhlamba emva kokuzalwa. Abanye abazali bafuna ukwazi ukuba ngaba kuyimfuneko ukuthenga ibhafu yomntwana kunye nokuba banokuhlamba umntwana wabo kwibhafu yabantu abadala?
Kusana olusandul’ ukuzalwa, akunzima nje kubantu abadala ukuba bahlambele kwibhafu yabantu abadala de kube malunga neenyanga ezintandathu ngaphambi kokuba umntwana ahlale yedwa, kodwa kukwayingozi nakumntwana. Abanye abazali bakhetha ukuchitha ixesha elihle kunye nosana lwabo ebhafini, kodwa oku kuseyingozi kwiintsana ezincinci. Ngenxa yokuba intloko yomntwana ingabetha indawo enzima yebhafu; Okanye usenokutyibilika ezandleni zakho emanzini, okanye atshone. Ukuba ukhetha ukuhlambela usana ebhafini ngaphandle kwebhafu, ukugoba kwakhona kuluvavanyo olukhulu kumqolo wakho.
1.Ibhafu eyenzelwe iintsana ngokukhethekileyo inokusombulula le ngxaki. Usana lunokuhlala okanye lungqengqe ebhafini, nto leyo enokukhulula izandla zikanina.
2.Sombulula iingxaki zokuhlambela zeentsana ezisanda kuzalwa kunye nokukhuthaza ukukhula kobudlelwane bomzali nomntwana.
3.Ibhafu yethu inegama eliphezulu kakhulu. Umama unokusebenzisa ngokukhululeka, kwaye nosana lunokungqengqa kamnandi.
I-4.Imveliso yethu yenziwe ngezinto ezibonakalayo, ezikumgangatho ophezulu. Lolona khetho lulungileyo nokuba uyisebenzisela abantwana bakho okanye uyinike abahlobo. Ngokuqwalasela ukhuseleko lomntwana, ibhafu yethu yenzelwe ukukhusela umntwana ukuba angawi ngexesha lokuhlamba.